Finding Peace Resource Guide

Steps to Finding Peace

When you experience suffering…

  • Pray your pain to God. This is what it means to lament.
  • Remember that God is holy, sovereign, and a good Father.
  • Cling to God’s promises (Psalm 32:10; Isaiah 43:1-2; Romans 8:28; Hebrews 13:5, etc.).
  • Share your burdens with godly friends.

When you struggle to forgive…

  • Recall the mercy and grace God has shown you.
  • Meditate on Christ’s suffering for your forgiveness.
  • Tell God something like: “Father, I don’t feel like forgiving __________. I’m angry over the way he/she has hurt me. But I know you’ve commanded me to forgive. So, help me to love __________ just as you loved me when I was still in my sin. Give me the grace to live at peace with him/her so far as it depends on me. Help me to be willing to reconcile with __________ if they are willing too. Be with me and help me! Amen.”

When a relationship is strained…

  • In humility, inspect yourself before you accuse the other person of wrongdoing.
  • Confess to God the ways you’ve sinned against him in your relationship struggle.
  • Schedule a time to meet with the other person to talk through the situation.
  • Ask the person open-ended questions like:
    • Did I do something to hurt or offend you?
    • What did you mean when you said…?
    • How could I have handled the situation better?
  • Be willing to say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong. Will you please forgive me?”
  • Be willing to say, “I love you and I forgive you.”

When you feel worried or anxious…

  • Stop what you’re doing, take a deep breath, and start talking to God.
  • Meditate on a passage of Scripture like Isaiah 26:3-4.
  • Ask yourself, “What is the root of my worry or anxiety?” “Am I not trusting God for something?”
  • Go for a walk outside. Ask your spouse or friend to go with you if you don’t feel safe being alone.
  • Thank God for his faithfulness.

When you feel lonely…

  • Remember that Jesus experienced loneliness as well.
  • Remind yourself that God is always with you because the Holy Spirit lives inside you.
  • If you’re living in sin, confess it to God and turn from it so that you can experience true fellowship with him and others. Sin always leaves us feeling isolated.
  • Don’t isolate yourself. Grab lunch or coffee with a godly friend.
  • Find a way to use your gifts to serve others.

When you feel disappointed…

  • Be honest with God about your disappointment.
  • Make a list of the blessings God has given you.
  • Use your list to thank God for the ways he has cared for you.
  • Read stories of Christians who’ve endured disappointment well.

Resource List


JBC Must Reads: On Anxiety by Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation

Running Scared: Fear, Worry, and the God of Rest by Ed Welch

Depression: Looking Up from the Stubborn Darkness by Ed Welch

The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict by Ken Sande

Uprooting Anger by Robert Jones

Reset by David Murray

Refresh by Shona and David Murray

Suffering: Gospel Hope When Life Doesn’t Make Sense by Paul David Tripp

Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament by Mark Vroegop